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Purity

Started by K, author of

10/30/2009 8:10 PM

What are your views on staying abstinent until marriage? What do you consider "too far" when dating somone? Any suggestions you have for dating as a christian.

I beleive that God has called us to complete abstinence until marriage! I am waiting for the right one :)

 

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Reply by shannon
author of Yes I make this all up its fun

11/2/2009 1:31 PM

DOTK I do get what you mean. I think that is a good way to be because everything we do in our lives has to be a lesson. And if people hold onto something as a "shameful regret" they loose the opportunity to learn from it. I just dont want people to hold onto the shameful and beat themselves up for what they have done in the past because all you can do is learn from it.

Reply by Brittany
author of The Ritters

11/3/2009 2:11 PM

I think the key is how you teach your kids about sex. Like I said before, my parents taught me the beauty of sex and the gift God created in it. They likened it to a present on Christmas morning. There are two things that make those gifts great: the anticipation of waiting to open it, and the newness of it, knowing that it is yours and no one else has enjoyed it before. (Maybe not the best analogy because we sure had our share of hand-me-downs that were wonderful and a blessing, but I think you get the idea.) Our wedding night was amazing. Was it perfect and straight out of a movie? No way! But there is something so fulfilling about laughing and learning with the one you just promised to spend the rest of your life with. Sex within marriage is such a beautiful thing! It's hard and not an easy choice to make, but the rewards are ten fold. We need to teach kids that sex is such a fun gift, but we also need to teach them restraint. I am so proud that we waited and I love sharing about how happy we are with our decision!

Reply by Stephanie
author of

11/3/2009 3:30 PM

My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night.  I am very thankful for this.  I think it would be very hard for me to go to bed with him knowing he'd already been with someone else.  That being said, we did make some mistakes during our engagement.  We went 'to far' many times and have regrets.  Some of the former posts encourage waiting to kiss until the wedding day or at least keeping kissing to minimum.  I agree with this and also with the encouragement to stay in public and out of closed doors.  That way the public holds you accountable.  I'd also like to mention that my sister and her husband waited until their wedding day to do anything other than hold hands.  THAT is what I wish we had done.  
 
For anyone who is trying to decide if you should wait:  DO WAIT!!  It is worth it.  Don't worry about your wedding night so much.  It may not be 'movie' perfect but when shared with your beloved it is beautiful and blessed by God.
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