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Anyone else need more "adult time"?

Started by Mandy, author of Peace and Craziness

1/25/2010 1:27 PM

I am the mommy of 3 kids, ages 8, 5, and 2. I work part-time from home, this means my 2yr old is "always" with me. Day and night... I feel I am never able to just run here or go there. Don't get me wrong, he's home with me by MY choice and I wouldn't want it any other way.. but I realized that I am really needing some time away from my kids! Right now, even running to the grocery store without 3 ppl tagging along would seem like a great outting. lol

My husband is a State Trooper and has an insane schedule, hence why so much of the kid stuff rests on my shoulders. He'll have a rare day shift next month and I cannot wait! I told him to get ready to be with his kids a whoooollle lot. ;)

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View Profile	Reply by Mandy author of 1/25/2010 9:28 PM I can totally relate! My kids are 3 yrs and 18 mo. I'm a stay at home Mom and most of the kid stuff is my responsibility. The constant kid only interaction can really get to ya! My husband and I just got out of the house kid free 2 weeks ago for the first time since our son was born 3 yrs ago. We went to dinner and a movie! It was great! I felt refreshed! Can't wait to do it again! Hope you can get a break soon!
View Profile	Blog pic: (premium) Reply by Brandie author of The Rudy Family Rukus How to maintain a Rukus with a sense of humor. 1/26/2010 10:02 AM I can relate too. I rely heavily on my neighbors and I have hired a babysitter that I trust very much. It is hard to find these people to trust but it is so worth it for my sanity. I am a much better mommy when I can step away even for just an hour and re-group. I highly recommend you find someone that can give you some reprieve.
View Profile	Reply by Reagan author of Where is the ME in Mommy? 1/26/2010 2:56 PM Oh man do I know where you are coming from (except I don't work and I have one less child). On my blog I have a post about a BABYSITTING CO-OP. Do you have friends who might be willing to switch out babysitting? If so, this post will help give you ideas on how to make it run smoothly. Other things I do to get mom time: I go to MOPs (Mothers of PreSchoolers) and I go to a mom's group from meetup.com . My children are at the meetups with me but they are generally interacting with other kids so I have a chance to talk to grown-ups. If your hubby is home at night, could you sneak out to a late movie or to do grocery shopping? If your hubby IS home, I also have some in-home date ideas :) Please feel free to contact me and discuss other ideas. I'd love to hear your thoughts as well. Good luck, Reagan whereisthemeinmommy@gmail.com
View Profile	Blog pic: (premium) Reply by 5MinutesForMom author of 5 Minutes for Mom - Bringing Moms Together Twin Sisters Help Promote your blog 1/28/2010 9:41 AM It can be soooooo hard to look after your children 24/7 without any break for adult interaction. When I had my first Julia up until I had my second I was never apart from Julia for more than 2 hours. I loved being home and working at home with her and Janice and I juggled looking after our kids and working, but it was mostly me with the kids since Julia was so attached to me. I tried to get babysitting for her so I could work, but most of the time it was unsuccessful. When Sophia was born I had to weaken and get a nanny so that I could work more during the day. So now I don't have that same situation of never having time without them. There are definitely adv and disadv of staying/working at home and the main disadv is what you've said... it can be hard being with kids non-stop. I think the suggestion of trying to find a friend to trade off with is a great idea. Good luck! Susan
View Profile	Reply by Allison author of Alli 'n Son 2/1/2010 9:44 PM I feel the same way. My husband travels, so there are weeks when it's just me and my 2 year old. I love him to pieces, but there are days that I just need some me time. And I don't mean the couple of hours at nap time and after bed time. Even playdates and our daily activities seem to drag me down after a while. I feel the same way about running errands and grocery shopping. Sometimes it's a treat to do it by myself. Funny how life changes when you have kid(s).
View Profile	Blog pic: (premium) Reply by Cascia author of Healthy Moms Healthy Moms - Bringing YOU the best information 2/2/2010 1:52 PM Yes, yes, yes! My husband and I struggle with this all the time. We would love to have time to ourselves every night but this doesn't always happen. We are also searching for ways we can interact with other adults. This is a great discussion! What do you and your husband's do to find adult interaction? Do you make sure you go out on a date once in a while? How often do you do that? My husband and I have made it a goal for 2010 to go on one date a month. When we are out on our date we try our best to leave our children out of the topics of discussion. Talking about the kids is off limits. Try this next time you and your husband are out on a date. It is challenging but you will form a stronger bond with him and you may learn something new about him too!
View Profile	Blog pic: (premium) Reply by KidGiddy author of Kid Giddy a Division of 2 is Beautiful, LLC Kid Giddy: Crafting a Family & Biz in Vacationland 2/2/2010 3:07 PM I have karate 2 nights a week - sometimes I go to the day class - depends on my schedule... it's nice to get out and kick butt! But it still seems like it's never enough. I keep begging my husband to take the girls somewhere for a whole week - so I can be home alone to get work done. still hasn't happened yet!