im actually the opposite. so i guess we can be really confusing. toby is only three and i dont like it when people ask him. he doesnt see himself as any different and he is totally confused if someone asks him what is wrong with his legs.
for me (and maybe for younger children) its best to ask the mom. or maybe teach the child to say something positive before they ask, like for example, "hey i really like your orange wheelchair, its my favorite color, why are you using a wheelchair?" its all about the way the question is voiced. i hate the whats wrong with him question. thats the worst.
to just encourage you though i think most moms come to grips with people are going to ask stupid questions and say stupid things but they really arent purposefully trying to be hurtful. im sure ive said a ton of stupid things in the past.
itd also be a good idea if that mom would send out a letter. before the school year starts i send home a letter with all the moms so if their child asks a question they can answer it.
thanks for asking the question. moms like you make it easier for moms like me. the fact that you would even ask shows you care
kari
www.raisingtoby.blogspot.com
