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am i harsh?

Started by kari, author of raising toby

10/15/2009 1:26 PM

I wonder if any one could read my latest post and tell me if it sounds like I'm talking down to people...or being harsh? I really want to come across in love but I want to be able to challenge people's thinking.... it's the one called  pk hallinan

 

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Reply by Jennifer
author of Our Pumpkin Adventures

10/15/2009 2:49 PM

Just read it and it doesn't sound harsh to me at all.  This may be due to my beliefs and feeling, they are similar to yours.  Children with special needs are children first!
I taught special education for 4 years (5 year old kids) and loved the fact that with integration the other kids thought that my children were normal everyday children.

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Reply by Richele
author of Under the Golden Apple Tree

10/15/2009 3:27 PM

I love your post!  I think you made a terrific point.  In fact, you echoed something I had said a while back anyway.  Good job! 

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Reply by 5MinutesForMom
author of 5 Minutes for Mom - Bringing Moms Together
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10/15/2009 4:02 PM

I think this is a HUGE issue!!!!

I just noticed yesterday while Julia was watching a show we'd never seen before called Pinky Dinky Do that they casually have a character in a wheelchair without making any reference to it. I've only seen the show twice, but I did notice it... I'm not sure if it occurs often or not.

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Reply by Lisa
author of Welcome to the Nuthouse
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10/15/2009 7:27 PM

I don't think it sounds harsh at all. You got your point across in an educational way.

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Reply by j
author of Smile, Laugh or Die
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10/17/2009 12:56 AM

just read it. thanks for bringing up a very important point.  nothing worth saying is rude.

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Reply by Suzie
author of Lily's Life is Great!

10/17/2009 2:44 AM

Great post! I feel the same way about my daughter who has Down syndrome.

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Reply by kari
author of raising toby

10/18/2009 2:44 PM

thanks guys. i never want it to sound like im a bitter mom looking down my nose as people.   thanks for checking it out

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Reply by Erin
author of Amundsen House of Chaos
Living life with a childhood stroke survivor

11/3/2009 7:25 PM

I know this is late but I went back and read it. I love it! I don't think you talked down to anyone. I hate the whispers and the parents who think they are so slyly moving their child away from my kids. Sometimes I think they think he's contagious or something. I want to tell them you can't catch a stroke!

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Reply by Mandy
author of Peace and Craziness

11/4/2009 10:21 AM

Such a good point... great post!

One thing, as a mom that is not in your shoes, that I'd like to ask is - how would you like parents to address questions from their children relating to your child? (or anyone else with special needs kids)

My daughter has a child at her school that is in a wheelchair, I actually don't think he can use his arms or legs. We saw them in the grocery store a few weeks after school had started and we got in line behind them to check out. She asked, "Why is he in a wheelchair?" (and I know he and his mother heard her...) I wasn't sure HOW to respond. I didn't want to make it a hush, hush thing like he was weird, or make a big deal about it.. so I just matter-of-factly said, "People are usually in wheelchairs because they cannot walk or just need some help getting around." She was fine with than answer - but I just hate to think that I'd ever say something to offend or upset a child or parent if that ever happens again. How do you wish people would act or explain things?


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Reply by Erin
author of Amundsen House of Chaos
Living life with a childhood stroke survivor

11/4/2009 1:25 PM

I'd rather someone ask what happened then ignore the question but that's me. I'm bad in that if I dont like the parents answer I'll speak up and tell the kid what happened. Maybe that's bad on my part but again that's just me. The other thing I like people to do is to talk to my son. He isn't verbal but he understands and you can bet he can tell when someone is talking about him versus talking to him.
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