My son was diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome with assoc. anxiety disorder and depression as well as dyslexia and dysgraphia around the same age.  You need to set up an IEP meeting with your school to create a Individual Education Plan for your child.  She may benefit from a 1:1 aide, Occupational therapy, Speech & Language (a lot of Aspies have a hard time with sarcasm and different modes of speech - not that they speak funny), and social skills training - as well as weekly visits to the school psychologist to help her with transitions (which is difficult for Aspies).  Also, check with the local advocacy groups in your town.  These goods should NOT be affiliated with the school!  They should be completely impartial and put your child first when negotiating IEPs.  You should an advocate there from day 1.  Trust me on this - it was 3 years before we brought the advocate in as we were trying to 'work' with the school and it ended up being disasterous.  Get an advocate involved from the get-go and the school will not try to downplay available services.  I've been through it all and seen so many things with so many parents.  Feel free to Tweet me. @knitpurlgurl

I just want to add my encouragement and support. You can do this. There is a great group of moms here to help, too.