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Reply by Carol
author of
2/4/2010 7:27 AM
You cannot avoid worrying about your children if you love them, so don't bother even trying to figure out if this is possible. It comes with the territory.
Sometimes worrying about things is a good way to keep your mind off of something else. Sort of a defensive mechanism. Give your kids a good foundation, teach them well and keep them healthy. Then send them off in the world to do good with a glad heart.
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Reply by Christine
author of Tender Mercies
2/4/2010 5:30 PM
Goodness! Worrying is one of the things I do best. :) I guess that I figure at some point it's time to trust that we've done all we could and let go. I worry about ruining my children too. Am I spoiling them? Am I neglecting them when I'm focusing on projects or housework? Will they come out as sensitive as me? I seriously get my feelings hurt way too easy. I worry about the choices they will make. I want them to cling to the gospel with their entire beings, but in the end it's their choice. But I think the best thing you can do for them you are already doing. Just love them. And I think that not growing up rich can be a great character-builder. You have to learn to make do, and you make great memories in the process. One thing I try to focus on is making happy, loving memories. If I goof up I try again. And that's all I can expect of myself in the end. One of my greatest hopes is that when I do let them go they will soar! I try to have faith in that vision.
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Reply by Brandie
author of The Rudy Family Rukus
How to maintain a Rukus with a sense of humor.
2/5/2010 11:55 AM
I worry a lot too but I try to worry about only what I can control. I read your post and I agree that my kids know I love them too. I worry that I am not giving them enough opportunities to feel the spirit I work really hard to do this. We attend church every week when possible. I try to read scriptures with them every morning before school but that doesn't always happen the good thing now is that if I forget they remind me... so I must be doing something right. Great discussion thanks Lolli!!
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Reply by alicia
author of Her Name is Rio
2/5/2010 6:31 PM
“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It
is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your
body.”
--Elizabeth Stone
sometimes i'm overwhelmed with worry about my baby. it really does feel as though my heart could fall off a cliff at any moment. but then i take a deep breath and embrace the moment.
if the worry makes you take action, then you've done what you needed to do.
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Reply by Heather
author of
2/8/2010 7:45 AM
What don't I worry about? I am constantly worrying about everything, and I worry about other people too? My husband is very good about not worrying unless he can control something. I am learning from him to let some things go and realize that they are out of my control. This has really helped. I have also stopped watching the news every single night. When I watch all the horrible things happening I start to worry even more. This might sound childish, but instead of everynight, I have cut back, and I actually read more of the news and weather on line. Otherwise I become scared in my own city and I just want to keep my kids inside all day and never let them go out again. I have also realized that the more prepared I am, the less I worry. When I put an emphasis on what is important to us, the gospel, time together, family home evening, building our testimonies, gaining knowledge, having fun, and I plan well, it takes away a lot of the worry because the spirit confirms that I have done the right things, and then I can put it in the Lords hands.
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Reply by brookeb
author of
2/8/2010 9:16 AM
Heather, I think that's totally not childish and it's a great idea. There's research out there that shows that people are more scared of their world when they watch more news, and it's also likely that the current perception of the world as being more dangerous today (it's actually not) for children comes from the 24/7 news coverage.
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Reply by Michelle
author of Everyday Elkins
2/8/2010 12:26 PM
I think the best way to not worry as much is to read the Bible. I came across this great verse the other day....Matt.6:34 "So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today." I always worry about the future. But Jesus tells us to just focus on today. He will take care of us. So comforting.
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Reply by Cheryl
author of Frazzle Dazzle SuperMom
2/8/2010 3:02 PM
I have always been a worry wart, however, I have realized that worrying has been limiting me in my life and creating so much anxiety. I have been training myself to live in the moment rather than ruin my day worrying about something that can potentially and more than likely not even happen. There can be no fear or worry when living in the moment.
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Reply by Brae
author of I am NOT a VOLCANO and other such stories.
2/8/2010 3:26 PM
I worry a lot too. Who doesn't? I'm an LDS mom too- and I do worry about teaching the the right things. The things that the church stands for and the morals that I want them to have. I think, as important as it is to talk to your older children, it's just as important to talk to the young ones. You know...'train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he shall not depart from it...' paraphrased, of course.
My children and I drive for an hour each way at least twice a week. It is a great time to talk. My kids have memorized the first 8 articles of faith and they know what they mean too- not because they're like insanely genious (smart, though) kids, but because of the repetition. I doubt they'll ever forget those.
We talk about how we don't drink coffee and tea and that we dont' smoke, and what we can drink instead, like cocoa and milk and whatnot. They know about the word of wisdom.
I don't know about you, but our family prayers are short. scripture study is a page a day. Family home evening is often a fight. However, my children know that it happens. I am not sure they ever hear a word I say to them during these times. I know they know who Nephi is, and about Laman and Lemuel. But I don't know if they know any others. The point is, it's a habbit. It is something that is regular to them and I'm showing them that it is important to Me because I am doing it. I insist on it. And when I don't, they pick up the slack. It's wonderful. And it gives them something to build on when they're older.
I also pray daily taht I'm doing okay. that they will turn out okay- that all the television i let them watch won't rot their brains and all the yelling or lecturing I do won't make them need therapy. LOL. I think that's the point. We really can't do it all alone.
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Reply by Michelle
author of Everyday Elkins
2/8/2010 5:10 PM
This might be a dumb question, but I am not LDS, grew up in Utah and had great amazing friends who are still my best friends but I never asked why some LDS people can't drink coffee or caffine? All my friends did but I know some LDS people who don't. I try to stay away from it for health reasons, is that why? Just curious!
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