
As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily.
The two of you enjoy talking about just anything. Just about
anything that is, except ugly disagreements.
It doesn't change
much in marriage except there are more things to disagree about.
You can’t run away from prickly conversations – for long. If
anything, marriage accentuates the mild differences you have while
dating. They can become serious disagreements once the initial
excitement of new love becomes the comfort of secure
love.
Before you marry, consider “must have conversations” on these
topics:
* Spirituality/Faith
* Conflict Resolution Skills
* Careers
* Finances
* Intimacy/Cohabitation
* Children
* Commitment
You’ve probably already talked about most of these topics – at
least to some degree. Great! That should confirm your decision to
marry.
But don’t avoid topics that might be sensitive. This is the time to
face difficult conversations and make sure you are on the same
page. You don’t have to agree on everything – just the important
things. Use your time of courtship and engagement to explore the
serious and controversial issues that are ahead of you. A marriage
preparation program will help you to address these issues more
thoroughly.
You may come to an impasse on an issue. That doesn’t mean you
aren’t meant for each other. It does mean you should pause and
study this issue more carefully. Perhaps it’s a sign you need to
consult others with experience or expertise in the area.
Remember to maintain the balance that you share through (PEACE)
Prayer, Effort, Attention, Communication and Extra service towards
EACH OTHER.
"Newly-married couples, when you find
yourselves in a crisis…recognize that divorce is not inevitable and
is certainly not your only option”
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