We never argue with The Teen over friends, music, books, clothes, food, what he buys with his own money or computer time.

He recently has been given unlimited X-Box time, but he loses it completely if his grades aren't kept up. He never watches TV so that doesn't matter. He doesn't get to see 'R' rated movies that have a lot of sex or violence in them (and he really doesn't want to either) but the lesser of the 'R' ratings I have allowed him to watch.

Overall he makes really good choices about what he puts in his life so we feel comfortable with what he does. We're working towards letting go completely because in 1-1/2 years when he turns 18, we won't GET to say anything to him.

Yeah, I can imagine Kate, what a tremendous transition that is for parents. 

Last week  I spent my sons counseling hour talking instead of him. This is what we talked about. He basicly said figure out what your values are. So for us we will not give up the fact that he can not watch or play anything with demons or spirits but then if he does not want to do his homework for AWANA then let his leader talk to him. That way everything is not a battle. So for me I think long term how is this going to affect him and what is important to us