I believe in fate for sure...  I completely believe that Karl and I are fate (even if we are not all sunshine and roses) because fate is the only way I can explain how we met.

He was born in Ohio, raised and educated in Arizona...and took a job offer in Plano, TX at age 19 over all the other (local) options post grad.

He then wanted out of his North Dallas apartment, and bought a house in a TINY town which happened to be five minutes from where I was raised and lived...even though he looked at houses in 30 other places within commuting distance...

and then we met at a Cici's pizza while I was taking my then 4 year old brother to eat while my parents were out of town...and we only spoke because he was laughing at Jeffery and they were making faces back and forth?

So, FATE.

Other little moments of fate have happened to me...but they are tiny.

Sprinting full blast but coming to a dead stop just in time for an unseen venomous snake to cross my path.

Waking from a cold sleep and reaching out to catch a sick baby's vomit. just in time..

Deciding to turn on an alternate street by chance, and then watching an accident happen where I would have been had I gone the "normal" way...

I see it all as destiny in a way.

i stayed at a red light that just turned green instead of just going like I usually do, to see and hear a heavy cement truck go thundering through the light. if i had gone, we would have been a wet spot on thecpavement.

I definitely believe that God puts things in motion in our lives. Like Jody, there is no way I would have met Jeff if it weren't for a change of plans I wasn't expecting. I was not supposed to be on campus that summer. I was supposed to be back in Florida working at a summer day camp my grandfather had secured for me. But my head gasket blew and it was going to take weeks for my mechanic to get it fixed, so I stayed with the family I was living with and worked housekeeping at the college for their summer conference season since that's what their two oldest girls were doing.

During the school year there is no way our paths would have crossed since his supervisory assignment was all the way on the other end of campus in a part of the gym I never went into. But during the summer conference season, everyone worked anywhere they were needed for that particular conference. I just don't see any other way all those things would have lined up so neatly.

I just wrote about fate in a manifesto to a guy I haven't really mentioned on here. I just don't know, but sometimes there is just no other explanation, but when you have a "fate" type event and things don't end up working out, then I have to wonder what the point of fate is. 

So this is what I wrote to my boy:

"Most of the time general talk about fate and the universe and all that crap induces a big fat eye roll or twelve from me. I tend to think of it at B.S. people want to believe in order justify their actions or circumstances or whatever doesn't make sense in their lives, good or bad."

yes, yes, yesser and yes! Definitely! Absolutely! You betcha! I could do the examples, but I figure you've got my stance on this? YESSSSSS

 

Hahahahaha! Why don't you tell us how you really feel Laura?!? ;)

Totally believe in fate - but think it's not always good, and not always obvious. I try not to regret things because I know that every little thing has made me who I am, and the things in my present are shaping who I am to become. I have choices (I don't believe my life is not in my own hands), but believe things will work out as they are meant to be. That my choices take me to places I am meant to go.

 You pretty much just described EXACTLY how I feel about all of it Ali!

yes, absolutely.

this pretty much sums it up for me.

Ali said it far more eloquently than I could have!