Brianne: I take care of washing, but the kids all put away their own laundry. That way, I know what should be clean, and they know where they should be able to find it!
RaD: I like the consequence chart! I'm a little concerned for me about implementation (like you said- the holidays are chaos, and for me, that's immediately followed by tax season, which is beyond chaos!), but I'm going to chew on that for a while. I'm sure there's a way to make it work, and if there is, it'll come to me!
It's not always a popular choice, but I'm not adverse to a spanking, and that was more or less how we started the day Tuesday. It never fails to amaze me that 3 children, brought up in the same home, by the same parents, can display such drastically different behaviors.
I keep telling myself that it's just J testing the limits, but at the same time, he chooses the ones that he knows (or should know) are not going to move. I keep trying to explain what all happened yesterday, and I can't even verbalize it! I was literally pushed into "a blind rage" and I worry that he was essentially at that level too. This isn't our first time being at this point, either. When we are calmer, we can have rational conversations, and we've talked about trying to find ways to walk away before we get to that point, but there are also times when he simply must learn and understand : You MUST do this, and you must do it now. There is no time for explanations, you must simply recognize that I am the parent, and at this point, I'm playing the mom card! (Like, when we have to be at the bus stop for school by 8:25, and it's 8:15 and you have no clothes on!)
We'll get there. I have faith. We'll get there.
Thanks for letting me vent!!!