I am right there with you!
I am a bit OCD when it comes to cleaning. We own a small business and our office in our home, so I have double duties. I bounce daily from the office and our business work, to the household chores. My husband gives me he!! once in a while, too.
I think they just don't get it! If they have a problem with household chores, they need to pitch-in and quit the complaining. Being a mom is a full time job in and of itself...not to mention keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, and for me running a business.
Sometimes, I think I just need to pack myself up and go away for about a week and let my Darling Husband take care of the kids, run the business and the house, then he MAY get a different perspective on my life!