We are pretty structured around here as far as naps/nighttime go but as far as play... we really go with the flow. My daughter is 23 months and not always in the mood to do the same thing all of the time. The only thing that we specifically do is go to playgroup on Tuesday mornings. \
We tend to have quiet time in the morning... I make breakfast, she plays by herself, eats, etc... I clean up, blog, read.
Around 10 we do play together stuff- whatever she wants, usually (puzzles, crafts, coloring, walk, dancing, etc... in the winter this is harder because we don't have much option for outside, but we do have balls inside and we will play with those or we will bring the dogs in and chase them around... whatever we can find!)
We sit down together and relax as we get close to naptime (1pm).
After naptime is more playtime, then as it gets closer to dinner/jungle gym daddy getting home she gets more independent playtime and I start cleaning up and cooking dinner.
When we are done with dinner is basically wild maniac child time because Daddy is home and he isn't pregnant, so he can roll around on the floor and wrestle and giggle. :)
Bedtime is 7:30-8:00 (this varies simply because some days she is exhausted by 7:30 and other times she is just fine until 8) so at about 6:30-7:00 we sit down and read books, play quietly with puzzles, watch a little bit of a movie, etc...
Meals... well. that is a bit harder. She is a toddler so sometimes she doesn't want to eat much and sometimes she is like a garbage disposal. We do a specific breakfast, lunch and dinner, but for snacks i let her lead. Although I give her specific choices on what she can eat (yogurt, banana, crackers?). We tried to do set snack times, but she just wasn't always hungry at snack time, and then an hour later she would want a yogurt, but we were still a ways away from lunch or dinner.
I don't think any more structured is the way to go for us. We get a little bit of everything in during the day... we have activities like little games, we have beads to string, flashcards, coloring, etc... we work with puzzles, shapes, counting cheerios, baking-she LOVES to help in the kitchen. (no worries... she stirs the pudding or cookies and puts ingredients in the bowls... she doesn't do anything at the oven or anything!) I put together crafts that we can make, we paint, we play hide and seek... etc... there are so many activities out there! For more detailed lists of things I am sure you could google and find games and learning activities for toddlers.. :)
