I did not believe in divorce when I first married, even after several years and I knew I had not married for the right reasons. I had made a commitment and would see it through. Then my husband left me for another. I was devastated and relieved all at once. I am divorced, but believe that when you take the vow for better or worse there is no going back in that. I remarried 7 months ago, it was a long hard process before I could take the leap, but boy am I glad I did!

So for me, I guess, reluctantly I have to say there are reasons to divorce but I wish there was no need.

I left my abusive husband. There is no reason why I should stay with someone who did not respect or cherish me. Yes, I chose to marry him, but sometimes we make bad decisions with the best information that we have at the time, we should not be punished to a lifetime of pain, regret and unhappiness. Life is for the living, and only after the courage of leaving did I realize how much I was missing out of life. I feel like I have been given a second chance. And I can now provide the best example possible of how life is supposed to be for my child.

It would make life so much easier and save a lot of people pain and heartache if everyone was honest from day one in a relationship. 

People change. 

Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone wore a sign that best described them in one word? Like, "jerk", "nice", "gentle", "unpleasant", "disagreeable"... Then you would never have to ask or wonder, just pick out the charachteristic you are looking for in a person.

 I heard this on a movie once and just never forgot it... Can't remember what movie though!

 My one year anniversary of my second marriage was Sunday. I wrote this about it. 

My first marriage ended after a 17 year relationship. Because he was not a partner to me. He was a kind, loving man...but I had two children instead of one and I was turning into a burned out shrew.

My husband now is perfect for me, and I feel love like I did not know i could. 

You married that person for better or worse, and the only way I can see where splitting up would even be an option is if there was something that caused the marriage to be invalid in the first place. Check out the Catechism of the Catholic Church for more on exactly what I believe (it falls right in line with the Catechism), or for a quick look, the Wiki page on annulments in the Catholic Church.

Are you implying that a person should stay in a relationship of fear, because God said so? No God I know would want someone to be fearful, disparaged, disrespected or harmed...

Whitney, do you believe if there is abuse and the partner refuses to change, that you should still stay?

My Mom was an abused wife and stayed for 10 years.  Much longer and she would have been dead.  That is why I am asking the question.

People decide to divorce for many reasons and I don't think it is for anyone else to determine if those reasons were "legitimate." Quite honestly, the very question upsets me.

People who are divorcing need the support of their family and friends, not judgment because the only people who truly know what the marriage was like are the husband and wife.